Wednesday, January 19th, 2011
Last night there was a bridal shower. The women who attended were friends of the bride’s mother.
Most of us are not crazy about shower games. So instead, we went around the circle and answered two questions: How did you become friends with the family and what one bit of wisdom would you like to offer the bride?
Of course, there’s lots more that could be said, but here are the impromptu responses:
- When there’s trouble, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you or with him or something wrong with your family or his–it’s because God made you different than each other.
- Marriage is for sanctification.
- Remember no one will love him like you do.
- Read the Bible together every day.
- Pray together.
- Hold onto Jesus.
- Remember that all marriages are cross-cultural.
- Laugh a whole lot, especially when things are crummy.
- Never criticize him in front of other people.
- Let your behavior be respectful even when you don’t feel like it. Politeness like “please” and “thank you” can help clear the air.
- Be patient.
- Do things together, and time alone is important too.
- Appreciate each day. Don’t let things hang over from the past and don’t worry about the future.
- If you’re not feeling well, let him comfort you, and don’t go hide under the covers.
- Keep pursuing each other and learning each other.
- Make room for silliness.
- Stay friends.
- Learn how to celebrate together. You live close to your families, but make your own celebrations too for Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.
- Be as crazy as you can at home, then when sober times come, you can be sober. I hope you’ll have more than 62 years like we have.
- Let him be head of your house, and Jesus be head over all.
- Know every day about God’s sufficiency–not just in hard times, but all the time. I pray that God will lavish future grace on you.
- Go on the mission field. That will put everything to the test.
- Pray. Hug. Laugh.
- I wasted too much time wanting my husband to be what he wasn’t. Your husband is who you’ll know best from here on out. Enjoy who he is.
- Read out loud together.
- Launch out and be your own family, but remember you can call your mother anytime–and any of these friends too.
- A threefold cord is not easily broken. Please keep Jesus as the third strand in the cord of your life together.
We showered our bride with tangible gifts that should last a few years. But this love that showered from clouds of experience is good for a lifetime.
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